The People Who
Loved Tammy Faye
by
Christine McCarthy McMorris

On July 19, a
skeletal, nearly unrecognizable Tammy Faye Messner, in the final stages of
metastatic colon cancer, made her last stand on CNN’s Larry King Live. In
obvious pain, she struggled to tell the world beyond the camera lens that
she had no regrets (“it’s a waste of brain space”) and not to worry.
“[B]ecause I love the Lord,” she said, “I am going straight to Heaven.”
Who could be surprised by Tammy Faye’s wish to appear on television (via her
home in Kansas City) in her final hours? And when she died the morning after
the interview aired, who could be surprised that her husband Roe Messner
should call King to ask him to announce the passing of the former First Lady
of Christian Television. For decades, her public triumphs, personal
disasters, and wacky reinventions had all played out in the media’s warm
glare.
Reporting her death put mainstream journalism in touch with its inner
tabloid.
Tammy Faye and first husband Jim Bakker, wrote Anita Gates in the July 22
New York Times, “built a commercial empire around television evangelism
only to see it collapse in sex and money scandal.” The Washington Post’s
Adam Bernstein played up the gulf between Messner’s hardscrabble Minnesota
upbringing (“the family lacked indoor plumbing”) and her ’80s-style
affluence, complete with “vintage cars, hefty bonuses, expensive vacations
and eccentric spending, including an air-conditioned dog house.”
And like virtually every other paper, Dennis McLellan’s Los Angeles Times
obit called attention to her “heavily made-up” and “mascara-laden” eyes even
as it described the $265,000 in hush-money paid by Jim Bakker to church
secretary Jessica Hahn to cover-up their “sexual encounter” in a Florida
hotel room in 1980.
Few stories forgot to mention the Bakkers’ war with Jerry Falwell, who
briefly assumed control of their collapsing televangelical empire, or Tammy
Faye’s bankruptcy, her addiction to painkillers, her first (and second)
husbands’ stints in prison, and her reincarnation as a TV
personality—including hosting, in CNN.com’s words, “the Jim J. and Tammy
Faye show with gay actor Jim J. Bullock.”
Amidst this juicy catalogue, the judgments ranged from the condemnatory to
the understanding.
On
July 24, an editorial in the Dallas Morning News went so far as to
suggest that Tammy Faye’s cancer had been a just punishment for her
“burlesque style of televangelism.” According to the paper, her final
appearance on Larry King Live proved that the “power of positive thinking
was no offense against the grave’s assault on her gaudy artifice.”
“[I] know something about the fruits of her labor and how they, as history
in her lifetime proved, turned rotten,” exclaimed Knoxville News Sentinel
columnist Ina Hughs July 26.
On
the other hand, Hartford Courant columnist Susan Campbell wrote July
24 how Messner’s own troubled life enabled her to empathize with all sorts
of people in pain: “I think Tammy Faye embraced them all because she knew
better than most what it is to be an outsider.” As for Messner’s
over-the-top appearance, Campbell insisted, “If you grow up cold and hungry,
you earn the right to define your own aesthetic.”
If
Tammy Faye got giggles, potshots, and a dose of sympathy from the mainstream
media, it was mostly the silent treatment from her sometime peers in the
evangelical world.
On
July 21, Pat Robertson’s CBN did report her death, wrapping up its report
with a sneer: “The former evangelist also appeared on a 2004 VH1 reality
television series, The Surreal Life, in which she stayed in a Los Angeles
home with a porn star, a rapper, and several actors.”
Among
evangelical bigwigs, Robertson alone took note, even issuing a terse
statement that sounded a positive note: “Her bravery in the midst of her
suffering will be an inspiration to many.”
It was her
embrace of the gay community that seemed to make Tammy Faye persona non
grata to evangelicals. In his August 5 column on the conservative website
townhall.com, Baptist pastor and Christian radio host Paul Edwards
took issue with Tammy Faye’s “so-called gospel”: “Tammy Faye put her arms
around the gay community, never telling them the truth about their sin.”
In
fact, most of the obits mentioned that Tammy Faye had a fan base among gay
men, and quoted her affirmation on her final Larry King Live appearance,
“When we lost everything, it was the gay people that came to my rescue, and
I will always love them for that.”
In
an article in Slate July 23, Michelle Tsai tackled the question of
how Tammy Faye became a “gay icon,” suggesting that it was her trashy yet
fabulous clothes and makeup that set her up for gay adulation. Tsai posited
that female gay icons from Billie Holiday to Judy Garland “are often
powerful women who are also marginalized and vulnerable.”
It
didn’t hurt that in 2000, two (gay) men, Fenton Bailey and Randy Barbato,
made a documentary entitled “The Eyes of Tammy Faye.” Narrated by drag queen
Ru Paul, the film followed Tammy Faye as she railed against her enemies (and
gave makeup tips!), becoming a cult hit in the gay community.
But for many
gay men, especially younger ones, it was not just her status as diva, which
amounted to an impersonation of a drag queen, that made Tammy Faye a revered
figure. It was her outspoken acceptance of homosexuality.
The Washington Blade, D.C.’s gay newspaper, ran an informative
article by Joey Digugliemo July 27 that praised her as “the first evangelist
to have a gay man with AIDS” on a TV show. In an appearance at the 2002 D.C.
Capital Pride parade and festival, she not only sang “Amazing Grace” but
also judged a Tammy Faye lookalike contest.
Digugliemo noted that she consistently spoke out against anti-gay
discrimination in the Christian church. In a 2002 interview in the
Advocate (the largest national gay publication), she advised parents of
gays or lesbians, “Accept that child. Love that child. Hold onto that
child….That’s how Jesus loved.”
Her public stance
inspired eulogies from gays and lesbians across the country, including
hundreds of pages of comments on the website Gay.com. A few examples:
• In spite of—perhaps because of the hardships she faced, she
embraced us… she will be
long-remembered and long missed.”
—Matt Foreman, Executive Director, National Gay and Lesbian
Task Force
• One of my heroes passed away….Because of Tammy Faye, many gay and
lesbian people who
had been cast aside by the church were able to know that,
despite what some “Christians” may say, God loves them.
—Hamza Darrell Grizzle, Blog of the grateful bear
• Tammy, if there is a heaven, you are going there. We love you for
how much you helped
our community and for your real christian love.”
—Gay.com condolence page forum writer
• We will always remember Tammy Faye Messner as a woman of God who
reached
beyond the boundaries to include all people.
—official statement by Rev. Nancy Elder, Metropolitan Community
Churches
Tammy Faye’s ashes were buried during a private memorial in Kansas. Leading
the service was Rev. Randy McCain, the gay pastor of the Open Door Community
Church in Sherwood, Arkansas.
In
an exclusive account written for the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette July
28, McCain remembered his “boyhood spiritual alienation” and recalled
finding solace watching the “cheery and upbeat” Tammy Faye on the PTL Club.
“I cannot count the times I got through the night thanks to the light from
the eyes of Tammy Faye.”
Not everyone in the mainstream media missed the point.
Jan Tuckerwood of the Palm Beach Post captured the spirit of the
moment, writing on July 24 “Tammy Faye went out like she came in: Painted
but positive. Fake but real. Ready for her close-up with Jesus.”
And while Miami County [Kansas] Republic’s Jan Sykes didn’t pass up the
chance to paint Messner as “a tad bit vacuous,” her August 1 column got to
bottom of it: “Tammy Faye did what she had to do to be able to forgive
Bakker. She even ultimately forgave Jerry Falwell. Her outward cheap glitter
was real gold inside.” |